How I think about intimacy

All my life people told me that my sexuality was not a fit. My desire for deep intimacy, not ejaculation focused did not match the cultural, social nor personal view of my partners.

After years of exploring a way of sexuality that suited my body and preferences through self-pleasuring, I wrote a manual for sacred intimacy based on Yogic principles.

Finally, I met teachers, who not only supported my view, but agreed that normal human sexuality is disgusting. Further, one mentor described that he views normal sex in a long-term relationship as more harming to the subtle energy system of a person than a one time rape. That got my attention.

How to deeply enter into new ways of lovemaking, instead of overlaying tantric sex on top of normal just for better orgasms, that’s a journey of discovery into the mysteries of the universe.

You don’t need to live up to what everyone else does. Indeed, most couples are not happy. There is more out there to discover about blissful encounters than what the media sells us.

I considered becoming a nun, but I found that awakening Kundalini life-force can be a shared journey (with or without sex).